first, let me say this: i do not want leslie to be “that kid” at school. nor do i want to be “that mom.”
okay. so, today i made a deal with leslie that if she had a good day at school we would go to mcdonald’s for lunch. she’s been having some trouble following directions and remembering to put her work away, so i shamelessly resorted to bribery. when i picked her up, we waited a few minutes for all the other kids in her class to be dismissed, and then i asked her teacher how her day was. i could tell by the look on her face that there would be no mcdonald’s in our future, and my heart sank. here’s the report that i got:
apparently, leslie’s class is equipped with a “mystery bag.” (a bag with something in it that the kids can stick their hand in, feel around, and try to guess what it is.) i assume they have been taught how/when to use this bag. today, leslie got the bag and proceeded to fill it with all kinds of stuff that didn’t belong there. she then carried it around with her like a purse. her teacher took her out in the hallway, explained to her that what she had done was not good, and made her put all the things in her “purse” back in their proper places around the room. and then she told her that filling the mystery bag with all that stuff was what babies would do, and that if it happened again she would not be able to come back to school because school was for big kids, not babies.
well, my initial reaction was to be upset with leslie for not following directions, so i told her i was disappointed and that would not be going to mcdonald’s. she literally cried her eyes out the whole way home. so, as i was listening to my sobbing three-year-old, i started wondering what exactly i was so upset about. was i upset because my child had put some stuff in a bag and pretended it was her purse? nope. i think i was mostly upset about her being told that she could not come back to school if she did it again. she’s three, folks. three. and she’s being threatened with expulsion? i just so want her to have a positive experience at school. i want her to like her teacher (which she does), i want her teacher to like her, and i want her to have friends. i know she’s only been in school for four weeks and that i’m probably completely overreacting. right?
so, what would you do?