ma’s refrigerator…

never has any food in it, but that is not the point.  (at least, that is not the point of THIS post…maybe a future one.)

the point of this particular post is this:  

growing up, ma had all sorts of magazine clippings hanging on our refrigerator.  some were cheesey (like this one), some were silly, and some were just ma.  you’d have to know her.  anyway, i guess she decided that it was time for the passing of the refrigerator-worthy clippings, and i was the lucky (lucky?) recipient.  one of the things she gave me is called ‘children learn what they live.’  of course, growing up, i’d seen it daily as i walked past the refrigerator, but i had never really stopped to look at it until today.  honestly, even if i had read it during one of the countless times i glanced at it growing up, i don’t think i really would have gotten it until leslie and lucy came into my life.  so, here it is:

if children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

if children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

if children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

if children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

if children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy.

if children live with jealousy, they learn what envy is.

if children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

if children live with encouragement, they learn to be confident.

if children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient.

if children live with praise, they learn to be appreciative.

if children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

if children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

if children live with recognition, they learn that it is good to have a goal.

if children live with sharing, they learn to be generous.

if children live with fairness, they learn justice.

if children live with honesty, they learn truth.

if children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.

if children live with friendliness, they learn that the world is a nice place in which to live.


i have no idea where ma found this…probably reader’s digest…but i’m glad she saved it.  i will hang it on our refrigerator as a reminder of the kind of world i want leslie and lucy to experience, and also of the kind of mother i would like to be…it will hang right next to this artifact from ma’s refrigerator.  🙂



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